My married best friend has been cheating on his wife for a year now.
I did know he was doing this but thought it was only for 3-4 months and last weekend he confessed it has been going on for a year.
At no stage did I condone his actions or agree with them. I have told him my thoughts but I like him for him not his wife/family which is why I have not said anything.
The main problem is I am his excuse to get out of the house as I live an hrs drive away and I cannot even go over anymore as our story's might not match.
+ now knowing it's been a year I am very disgusted as I thought maybee a fling but apparently not.
We used to go out every weekend for our recreational activities but his wife thinks he does but he is shagging some other chick - everytime I say lets go he states "remember we went last 3 weeks in a row" and need to go out with the wife this weekend.
I don't know what to do and I do not want to loose a best friend, which I have known for 13years
You say you don't condone his actions, you don't want to lose your mate and want to hang out with him. My first thought is tell him to stop using you as his alibi. You won't have to worry that your stories don't match, and you still should be able to hang out because you haven't spent the last few weeks together.
Ask/tell him to stop using you as an excuse and to put his d1ck back in his pants, cause sooner or later it's going to all hit the fan and you'll end up being dragged into the quagmire.
Sounds like a right **** to me. If he can burn his life partner so easily you can rest assured that you would rate about as highly as a scab on his knob in his grand view of life.
**** him off.
Is this a really subtle way of bragging that you have friends that aren't on Seabreeze?
It would set you apart from a lot of the people on here.
Is that the kind of bloke you really want to have as a friend. Seems to me he's been taking everyone for a 'ride' in his relationships.
If you value his friendship maybe you need to set it straight and tell him not to use you in his charades.
Guilty by association would be the verdict.
Ha seabreeze friends - oh yea a friendly bunch people
Only have 2 mates and seabreezer's. I will say to stop using me like that - good idea.
As for f-ing him off not quiet at that point yet - but not far off after hearing about the timeline. I was always tought people make mistakes and don't you give up on them the first sign of trouble, you try and help them through it. Hence the post to gain some constructive advice..
what is this, jerry springer???
stop being a sook and confront him about it. what sort of best mates are you if you can't have an honest talk and tell him to pull his head in? you've known him for 13 years, you must have been through some ** before...
Stalk him.
Take photos take video of compromising situations.
Extort your next Mentawi adventure out of him.
i allready have a beautifull wife who is pregnant. sharing or cheating is and never will be on the cards. i have told her and he is no longer welcomed in our house if she is home, which i agree with. i do not need to video him as if i told her she would believe me and then shoot me, nice girl but she can be nasty, very very nasty.
Well done YB,
It's Always the best policy being straight up with your lovely
Disclaimer
unless you are sneaking new toys into the shed
A bit off the point, but where did you find a trampoline to bounce an elephant that high?
It looks like fun!
Its Dumbo's cousin Bumbo who can't quite fly but is trying....
I wouldnt rat him out, but would tell him to man up and either leave the girlfriend or leave the wife...
being a lying, cheating mongrel is not good for any of those in this 4 way relationship.
If he is prepared to cheat on his wife, there is no lower he can go.
A wife should be the be all and end all of all friends, the first the highest.
Your friend is not a friend, he is using you, he is using his wife.
F??? him off
He will dissapear in the future anyway, probably after he tried to shag your missus, sorry mate and good luck.
Made of spiders web stronger and more flexible than steel......
I would not rat him out, unless a dangerous situation might occur to him/her or the children.
It is easy to ditch him - but I stand by my 2 friends whatever choices they make. I know I'm being used atm but his head is not in the right place and people make silly decisions when it comes to emotional thinking - at least he talks to me about it and I do not want him to have to hide it from me. I am very loyal and honust which helps.
I also have not spoken to his wife in 3 months so I have not had to lie to her and I will keep it that way for the time being.
I appreciate all the comments so far seabreazers - surprised Mark has not piped up yet, he always has something to say on everything and good old petermac he does not live close enough to an airport to be brainwashed by chemtrails and he drinks bottled water. - you stay away...
I wouldn't want your "married best friend" in the trenches beside me. Friendship is mutual and he is using your friendship to pump some broad. I would tell him to fark off until he sorts out if he wants to be Arthur or Martha.
yep long drawn out affairs NEVER end well - just a like watching a train crash happen - a one night stand can happen , but a year long fling nup.
and him using you as the decoy... bet he also drops in on you when you go for a surf doesn't he. makes you have the extra shout at the pub etc etc.
and well oops - you did tell your wife, sorry mate but no doubt she has told her bff already so the word is out. boat trips to Metawais are about ,$3,000 on the indie trader 4 about $1000 per day - nice boat you should let him know
its pretty simple, yet i have learnt the hard way. if somebody can screw someone over(pun half intended), dont think they wont screw you over cause your mates.
these type off people are all about self gratification and self preservation. just be glad its not your wife he is nailing
one question youngbull, how would you feel if you found out that one off your wifes friends knew that your wife was having a affair and hid it from you? goes to the old,treat people the way you want to be treated i guess
He will get found out and when the (nasty) Mrs comes looking for those that knew what was going on you better hope that you can face the music.
Your Mrs is only going to get more annoyed with you the longer that you are part of the deception. Be honest to her, if not yourself, at least.
Move on, it really isn't worth it.
I don't mind any comments about me or him but PLEASE do not refer to my wife being tapped by anyone, yes I know its calling the kettle black... just don't go there...she has no part of this and nor should she.
I have spoken to another friend today who had it happen to him - he also knows all about it, which is a little bit bizarre he does not take a more upfront approach although after our conversation he ripped through this guy and told him straight. I received a call for us to all meet up tom.. Intervention time. We have all been through alot together and supported each other everytime , this recent one is the nastiest though.
Yes he is a lying cheating prick and a bad human being but like I said above I will not ditch him yet. The conversation we have tom will be the decider.
Like someone said he might love the other girl more and we are beginning to feel this is the case. So sad really his wife might be grumpy and snappy alot but she does not deserve this or anyone.
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I don't mind any comments about me or him but PLEASE do not refer to my wife being tapped by anyone, yes I know its calling the kettle black... just don't go there...she has no part of this and nor should she.
I seriously don't know why you even put this up on seabreeze dude....
