I am getting tired of the parents of my teenage daughters friends having big parties for 40 odd teens (16 y olds ) where they allow alcohol . No presentation of invite nothing just abuse from my daughter when i ask questions about the party ,why no invite etc answered with "mum doesn't care and would buy me the alcohol etc"
It just creates a 2 weekly stink around here, i'm over it .
Probably. 
No input on your situation, just answering the question..
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Maybe you could go Kit surfing to relax
Sorry mate past 4....
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I totally agree with you. My 15 year old son is doing the same thing to me. He doesn't drink (or so he says) but I don't like him being around peers who do. Bottom line is it is illegal. Stay firm, she'll understand why when she's older.
only joking about the last bit
Im sorry to say this but there is nothing you can do. The pressure at school and freinds is far to great. Being in those groups is like a cult.... once your in you do as they do or bye bye friends (They don't take it well when you say no)
My brother was really bad but same as GPA said, he got alot better once he got his P plates and got a job.
Your not old fashioned and boring... you just got to accept that this is the world we live in...
I am worried when my kids get to that age....
We had pot and piss...hell maybe even magic mushi
They have all sorts of sh1t out nowdays.
My 8 y.o. twins know when to stop pushing the envelope but my 5y.o. is really getting under my skin - caught him stealing beer from the fridge .................oh hang on I'm ten years too early for this discussion.
PS - not looking forward to dealing with my 1.5y.o. daughter turning into a teenager in about a decade either.
no, no telly for me...doggie...time to chop wood
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I think the attitude of some parents is 'better that they are drinking in my backyard' where I know where they are, rather than have them roam the streets or parks getting into trouble...
My daughter chose not to have an 18th because we said we would not allow her underage friends to drink at our place... seemingly, she didn't want to be the kid with uncool parents. That said, she was planning on having 70 of her 'close friends' over for a blinder... no chance sundance!
no, no telly for me...doggie...time to chop wood
Put it this way. She is either going to drink at a party where there are adults around or they'll go and get maggot down the park with nobody around.
I'm not a parent but I know what I'd prefer.
Even though you may not like it, it is the better option of the two to have her somewhere where there's an adult.
No matter what you do if kids want to drink they are going to drink.
I've seen it first hand with some of my mates when we were younger. The harder the parents are the harder they go at it. And not just alcohol or bongs either...
I know it must suck being a parent and seeing it and I'll no doubt be exactly the same as you when I one day have kids, but try and see it from their point of view.
We were all young once...
The later they start drinking the less likely they are to have a problem with it so I'm told. IOW the old addage about allowing kids to drink early supervised at home being a good thing is wrong.
Hi Lac
Long time, but the good news on your front is if you have done all you can in the early years then as they say all will be OK --mmm ( this is often difficult subject to individual situations etc).
BUT we all have an inner thing that makes us differnet so this theory is not accurate.
I am now at a time where I have a daughter where all has gone to plan ( but I admit there was no plan) and a son that - well what can I say but time will tell as he has proven to be a great husband, father and provider, however our relationship is a bit distant.
Good luck with what I am sure all will work out as life progresses and kite surfing will be your therapy
Ive been lucky with 3 daughters so far, ,,they just seemed to se through the peer pressure, and realize what idiots their "mates are"
I really dont think there is ant particular way you can raise them , evey one of them so far has been different
I was asked to join a few other parents at a teen party earlier this year. I was told 20 had been invited, i think the total in attendance must of topped 100+. Alcohol was everywhere, it was a riot. Pissed kids in the swimming pool, pissed kids in the house. It was a 13th b/day party, at 11pm the music was switched off. 20 kids were allowed to 'sleep over'. At 8am the following morning all the kids were still awake and twitching like zombies. One thing i did observe was the snorting of sherbet!, seriously several times i witnessed this and thinking they were snorting coke i had to investigate. Turns out they were getting some kind of glucose rush from the hits. Personally i think its pre coke grooming.
Theres no doubting that our kids will take an interest in alcohol and drugs. The majority of us did, maybe not so early but trends and attitudes are changing rapidly.
