Help for a friend who's in denial

This is odd, I remember [NAME DELETED] said in a post waaaaaay back:

"I have been planing for the longest time & I am in the harness and footstraps! Please stop observing and criticising me and focus on your own things."

This was on a thread discussing NP sails, and she'd mentioned that she really liked her new Hellcat. I was kind of trying to egg her along a bit because she's been windsurfing almost as long as me (well, more than 2 years compared to my 3.5) and as far as I could see she was getting nowhere so slowly that it was becoming painful to watch. Even after trips to Vietnam and Bali. I didn't want her to miss out on all the fun, and maybe eventually give up. Sure I was egging her on, maybe having a bit of a tease, but you need a thick skin on this forum and anyway it was done with a smile and good intentions.

So I was quite happy to hear that she's "been planing for the longest time & [she's]in the harness and footstraps!" And I confirmed this with her verbally the following weekend at the beach, in what was a strangely awkward conversation.

So, it's 2 months later and I've seen her out in good planing wind a grand total of 2 times, dragging along with the front foot in it's strap...not really planing, not going for that back strap...not looking like it's really happening at all...

What I wanna know is, WTF?????


(I'd put the question to her personally but I seem to be getting the icy treatment all of a sudden)

First of all there are so few female sailors that I wouldn't do anything that might make us loose one.

Secondly, you're walking on dangerous ground critising a female ... My girlfriend would hit me for that comment but at the same time agree with me.

All I can say is good luck!

Willy, the light bulb has to WANT to change.

Wet One - the teacher will appear when the student is ready.

U mean...Do Not F-something Try That?

With some people, having an opinion = criticising.

And it's good that you confirmed orally with her...

Seriously, I'd tend to drop it. Lotsa people aren't as good as I think they should be, and that includes myself. If they have a good time, and she's not complaining she's too good for the wind, so what?

I think you love her

I DO NOT!!

Hmmmm, wait a sec...right age, right gender (that's important)...nah, I don't think we click that way. Just a friend.

Or is that:

Wet Willy: Boldly going where wise-men choose not to thread.

Not quite planing in the straps? hmmmm Lets seeeee...

1) Move straps in and forward.
2) Rig a bit bigger &/or sheet in more
3) More weight on the booms, less on the feet.

That's the recipe Fiona if you're reading this.

Wet Willy, it was kind and selfless of you to help her indirectly like this. Inside that gross exterior beats the heart of a true gentleman.

I think he loves you Fiona.

Seriously, a woman gets up at 5:30 in the morning to make her face up.
Do you really believe she wants to hear the truth ?

(Faintest of smileys here.)

Of course. And I wouldn't like to be criticised like that either. That's not the point; the point is WTF???? Why would she post here that she's planing and in the straps, and tell me she is, when she's not? What possible good could it do?

OK, I had an ulterior motive. I've always liked her. As a friend only. But it seems that she has recently decided not to talk to me anymore; no reason given, but I suspect it's because her dear friend, Singapore's only windsurfing ladyboy, has been whispering strange and untrue things about me. Just a theory. So if I can't talk to her in person without being snobbed off, why not make a big scene on Seabreeze, eh?

Wa-hey!!


Boldly going, etc...

Personally I like Pierre's idea of dropping the whole thing. All those in favour?

This is getting better..........