Anyone got three kids and still find the time to get out?
The wife is thinking of having a third kid.
We have a 4yo and 2yo and things are just starting to get nice.
cheers
funny I feel that i've got two already even though just one little girl. My kid and wifey
Get the snip and dont tell her. Sometimes these things just dont work out. Enjoy your windsurfing!
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I drew the limit at 2, got stressed out enough as it was, would not have coped with 3, said such.
Have fun practising but don't take it seriously.
If you don't want another, say so with your reasons, windsurfing I wouldn't use as a reason
i guess everyone has there own limits.
i've got 3,
2 girls and a boy, all with similar age groups to you if you have another now.
i wouldn't trade any of them in. very glad we went for a third. certainly hasn't meant any less time on the water. sail 3-4 times a week depending on wind.
now the kids are at the age where they are starting to get into windsurfing also.
3 is definitely a step up from 2 it needs to be said. but it doesn't mean a new car or bigger house. 4 i reckon would be very hard.
work is the only thing that keeps me off the water these days.
I knew this bloke in the same situation ,He got the snip and didnt tell the wife
10 months later he comes home from work and she gives him the news that she is pregnant
He gets out heaps now and lives in his van
All I wanna know is how the hell do you get the snip and hide it from your wife!?
the problem is never the kids. it's usually the partner's attitude.
if he/she is into sports and lets you do your things, you're ok regardless of 1 or 2 or 3.
if he/she insists on controlling your fun and time and friends, then only 1 will be used as an excuse.
good luck.
I'm with Gingerpom on this one. In fact part of me reckons it won't make any difference as I believe that as a species we are already screwed and that the next 30-50 years are going to be one hell of a bumpy ride.
For the curious see Clive Hamilton's book "Requiem for a species" or Julian Cribb's "The coming famine", or Richard Heinberg's "Peak everything", or Gwynne Dyer's "Climate Wars", or Maude Barlow's "Blue Covenant".
Sorry to be depressing, but I do worry about the legacy we are leaving the next generation - which is the main reason I chose not to have kids.
I saw on the telly that for the next decade every 3rd child born will be Chinese.
So that may or may not influence her decision.
5 girls, wouldnt trade em, 2 are off at uni now which costs, but we never stopped camping, fishing, sailing , landsailing,overseas competitions, did it all.
now im slowly getting rid of all the excess crap , furniture,etc and renovating the house back into to a relaxed couples retreat, rather than a bunkhouse
im told that all that stuff we do is the whole purpose of breathing
It all depends on how demanding the kids are, and how energetic and good at coping your wife is...
and whether she is prepared to let you have free time to sail
which is more likely if you also give her some "me" time.
Tuff one
I have 4 kids 7,5,3 & 3 months. I work for myself, live close to the beach and generally can find time to get out.
Having said that the green light tends to come more often than not when its not windy, and when its shaping to be special day, somehow the ** hits the fan.
Apart from that can't complain.
I agree with something someone told many years ago - Never let the children out number the parents
two divides easily between the parents, a room for four is easy to find when travelling, split fold seats for 4 and gear in the wagon easy
But kids are great fun no matter how many you have
Had 2 happy, healthy kids...then missus wanted a 3rd! Must admit, I was reluctant as life was starting to get back to some form of normality with a 5 & 3yo.
Now at 4 months old, I wouldn't trade the newest addition for any amount of kit. To be honest, she makes the family feel whole & as for time & gear, not an issue. Lack of wind is the biggest setback, but I still manage to get out a few times a week mtb'ing, fishing, sailing or (and only just started) sup'ing, while the good lady is happy to either come along with kids, or stay at home with them.
If the wife's happy, you'll be happy!
Thanks for all the advice
Good to see people can still find the time with kids
Work seems to be the main 'fun' destroyer. just need that lotto ticket.
got 5 also, agree with what someone here said-its not the number but the attitude that affects how often you get out.
Whatever you do, it will be the right decision.
If you dont have another you wont miss him/her.
If you do you'll be thinking-this beautiful kid nearly wasnt born.
I had twins boy & girl at 3 yrs old misses says i want 1 more baby twins were hard bla bla bla 10mths after the third (boy)we had another boy so it was like twins again .The joy is there with the children & so is the stress .I cant comment about the sailing as i have only taken it up a few seasons ago so i have always had kids .I work for myself by myself so i can be a bit flexiable .Works dangerouse in very high winds so that helps me take those days off .That said i do have to turn over a bit to support 6 people so i work affair bit which reduces my family & sailing time .
I did think it could turn into a family sport but that hasnt happend yet .
Good luck .I would be suprised if you actually have a choice.
